The More I Love Him, The More It Feels Like He'd Changed

This kind of statement announces fear, hurt, frustration. When a woman starts saying he'd changed, you can put everything negative into that word; for if he changed for the best, he'd simply have been referred to as being wonderful. 

The illusion that people have when they enter into a relationship is that it will always be the same: sweet, beautiful, romantic. Here is the fact: love will grow and make you feel better, or it will wane, leaving you in the cold. It is important to know how to keep the flame aglow, and make your lover keep falling for you again and again and again. Below are points that may help you understand why you feel the way you do and how you can rekindle the flame of love and keep it burning. 

1. Why Does It Feel Like He Has Changed

You'd need to find out if you're acting on your fear of losing him or the reality. If you've always felt insecure, eaten up with the fear of losing your lover, then you'll feel changes where there are no changes. It may also be that you're growing in the way you love him. Before, he was just something important, someone amongst others. But now, you start realizing that he may have the central place in your life. The desire to have him all to yourself can be so strong that it makes you even want more than he can give.

2. Dating Wasn't Yet A Relationship

When a man wants to have your heart, he'll bargain for it, he will do everything to get your attention. Dating is the period of "knowing", the period you test the waters. You are your best; yes, because you want him. He doesn't tell you the sad, gloomy part of him. It may scare you. You have a lot of time together. But when you are already in a relationship, things change. Believe me or not. The real marriage comes after the honeymoon. After the honeymoon, you'll experience the bile of it. He starts knowing you as you are. He starts feeling your ugly tempter. He knows that you do not wear that makeup everyday; he sees the real thing beneath the mascara. People are ugly when they are real. They can be scary when they take off the makeup. This is something we fail to appreciate when dating. 

3. You Create the Love You Need

You do not have to wait for love. Love is a seed that you must nurture. It'll not grow if you fail to cultivate your heart and make it fertile for love's roots to go deeper. He'd you want him to be the same when you're doing nothing? Instead of whining that your marriage is going downhill, you should start courting him again. Learn the secrets of courting. Rediscover, every day the power of falling in love. Novelty always attracts the human heart. Be creative, and find a way to take your lover out on dates; find time to be alone with him. It is important. By so doing, you'll be re-enacting the fire of first love and the enthusiasm you had when you knew each other. He might be so focused on his career that he fails to notice you. 

4. Make An Effort to Enter Into His Pain

Sometimes you're up, and sometimes you are down. Everyone experiences such moments. Such are moments you feel the heavy weight of just being human weigh over your shoulders. When people are suffering from work-related stress, they'll want you to be present. You'll be pushing him away if you nag and continually seek his attention. Instead of thinking that the person you love doesn't love you any more, you should learn to love him even better. Instead of asking him to be present, make yourself present. 

5. Do Not Neglect Yourself

One of the reasons people lose interest in those they were once crazy about can be neglect of their physical appearance. If you stop taking care of how you look, your guy will certainly not feel so attracted to you. Make yourself hot. Take care of yourself. Visit the beauty saloon; groom yourself. You may want to check your lingerie and move those dresses that do not make you look desirable into the dustbin. Learn how to make yourself attractive and desirable. The way you look physically can determine the level of emotional attachment he will develop with you. Stop taking care of yourself, and he won't find you desirable anymore. 

6. Do Not Forget Those Invisible Boundaries

No matter how much you love each other, there are differences you cannot ignore. These differences can enrich your relationship, and they can damage it, especially if you are too keen on how different you while ignoring that their differences can be important to them. Your resentment will make her feel belittled and oppressed. If you make you make him become very sensitive with your moods, he'll always be walking on an eggshell, afraid to hurt you. For love to grow, you should learn to admit that you are different; what can make love possible, in some situations, are not the things that lovers share in common, but those that make them different, those that compliment their flawed existence. Your lover might have been around you in bars you love to visit, and he might have been to the cinema all the time, just because he wants to keep you company. Do not think that he likes such places. It might have been a great sacrifice for him. 

A lot of things can happen that will make you lose the ardor you had when you started your relationship, but it's important to learn the art of seduction, and use it every day. Love is a journey, and a difficult one also. Creativity makes it beautiful and gives it a form. You'll learn to have his attention if you discover his love language and make the effort to enter his world, each day, exploring it with excitement.