Hey, I know you'd start shaking your head after reading the title, but yes, I am going to talk about low self esteem in people. You and I are part of this gist, because we have a certain level of low self esteem. You'd have to read on. If you do not read beyond this line, I would take that as one of the symptoms of low self-esteem in you. People with low self esteem hardly listen, they only hear their need for love and attention, they want to hear it from everyone, but they can't honestly admit it to themselves.
One of the natural things we are born with is the need to love and be loved. The feeling of low self esteem, or poor self judgement, is intrinsically linked to our need for love. People with low self esteem live with an acute sense of incredulity, hardly believing that they are worth anything and always looking for signs of love and affection. They are constantly anxious and disturbed; they are always seeking, uncertain and hesitant. Even when people around show love towards them, they doubt it, they want re-assurances, and this makes them even more anxious, always questioning and looking for gestures that will confirm what they think. If the person who professes to love them does not act in the way they expect, they either become embittered or overly anxious to please him or her.
People with love self esteem hardly take charge. They are afraid to make mistakes and lose points. They are vulnerable and gullible, accepting anything that gets them noticed. They are either perfectionists or nothing. They won't do anything until they are very sure of it, which makes it really difficult to accomplish great things since they will always see themselves lacking. You will not believe this, but I will tell you anyway: people with poor self esteem hardly forgive themselves. And since they cannot forgive their inability to make themselves loved and successful, they also find it really hard to forgive others. Ask them a simple question to get their opinion and they get on a rambling spree of defenses. Sad though, but it is sometimes true of you and me.
There is a deep seethed anxiety you will notice with people, an anxiety which is akin to their sense of power. The desire to be loved is also linked to the desire to control and to manipulate. This happens very often in relationships where people suffer from the stigma of low self esteem. The relationships with others is chaotic, based on blames, scores and the desire for attention. Most people suffering from low self esteem would become promiscuous, using sex as a tool to reach out and win the attention from others. They are so preoccupied with the way others see them that they fail to love themselves properly. Love starts from home. You can only make yourself lovable to the extent that you love yourself, that you touch your fragility without fear, that you dwell in your wounds while they heal, discovering your finitude and the need for others in an open attitude.
Only those who have loved and been hurt, can nurture the festering wounds of humanity. As long as you close your eyes to your fragility, you will remain a raving beast. Humans are weak, broken creatures and that is what makes them even more lovable.
One of the natural things we are born with is the need to love and be loved. The feeling of low self esteem, or poor self judgement, is intrinsically linked to our need for love. People with low self esteem live with an acute sense of incredulity, hardly believing that they are worth anything and always looking for signs of love and affection. They are constantly anxious and disturbed; they are always seeking, uncertain and hesitant. Even when people around show love towards them, they doubt it, they want re-assurances, and this makes them even more anxious, always questioning and looking for gestures that will confirm what they think. If the person who professes to love them does not act in the way they expect, they either become embittered or overly anxious to please him or her.
People with love self esteem hardly take charge. They are afraid to make mistakes and lose points. They are vulnerable and gullible, accepting anything that gets them noticed. They are either perfectionists or nothing. They won't do anything until they are very sure of it, which makes it really difficult to accomplish great things since they will always see themselves lacking. You will not believe this, but I will tell you anyway: people with poor self esteem hardly forgive themselves. And since they cannot forgive their inability to make themselves loved and successful, they also find it really hard to forgive others. Ask them a simple question to get their opinion and they get on a rambling spree of defenses. Sad though, but it is sometimes true of you and me.
There is a deep seethed anxiety you will notice with people, an anxiety which is akin to their sense of power. The desire to be loved is also linked to the desire to control and to manipulate. This happens very often in relationships where people suffer from the stigma of low self esteem. The relationships with others is chaotic, based on blames, scores and the desire for attention. Most people suffering from low self esteem would become promiscuous, using sex as a tool to reach out and win the attention from others. They are so preoccupied with the way others see them that they fail to love themselves properly. Love starts from home. You can only make yourself lovable to the extent that you love yourself, that you touch your fragility without fear, that you dwell in your wounds while they heal, discovering your finitude and the need for others in an open attitude.
Only those who have loved and been hurt, can nurture the festering wounds of humanity. As long as you close your eyes to your fragility, you will remain a raving beast. Humans are weak, broken creatures and that is what makes them even more lovable.
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