What is hurting? Where it hurts? Why it hurts? Did you ever pause to think about that? It could be you are ignoring the stern look from that "some-body" that made you feel like you were nothing, the harsh work, the undignified gesture that seemed to hush you completely down and make you feel like you are worthless. It hurts. You know it hurts. And sometimes you can't just explain why. There are those buried hurts from your past, the anger, enfolded within you that never had any outlet, the sense of treachery, of betrayal, of abandon.... the list goes on, and that make you hurt a lot, you can't even know where the pain came from. You have heard about psycho-therapy and such stuff like hypnosis. They work incredibly great to ensure healing. But here are some elements of truth you may like to consider in dealing with your pain.
One of the greatest emotional pain spring from our sense of being left out, our abandon, our frustrations of not being able to integrate with others. You feel like you are brushed aside, just like a worth-less, use-less thing. That is what i wanna talk about. The feeling might be so imperceptible... you do not understand how it comes about. That is what I want us to talk about, and I'd not love it to be professional at all, I am no professional myself. I am a beating heart reaching yours.
Do you know what hurts? That is the question I asked you in the opening line of this gist. And do not just take it less seriously... Most of us hardly know what hurts us and that makes the pain so cruel and searing. Knowing what causes your pain is a way of naming it. When you name the source of your pain, you become its master. Pain is a kind of "enemy" and knowing it means you start identifying ways to handle it. The immediate reaction we face when we meet with painful and disheartening circumstances is that of denying facts... we think it couldn't be possible. You may as well stand up, face high and say to yourself, with some gentleness: "never mind, such is life!" And know what, it isn't easy as that. You would need to acknowledge that things aren't always the way we want them to be. That is a thought that makes you expect less yet recognizing surprises. You'll never recognize the miracles that life offers if you can't admit that things could get so bitterly abnormal.
You ever know this feeling of pity, I mean feeling so dejected you say to yourself: "I pity you?" That could be so mean, sometimes, you know. Pity isn't a healing feeling, especially when it turns back to yourself... instead there is compassion that you can express towards yourself. Compassion means, holding your own pain with gentleness and and believing that you can start the journey again. Compassion is the welcome you offer your heart thirsting for recognition and love. You can start loving yourself... the journey begins there always. You best know what your pain feels like, realizing that you are hurting is getting ready to treat yourself with much patience and tenderness. Few people love this and few people actually draw the waters from their hidden wounds to make the seeds of their humanity flourish.
No one, no other human being can make you understand what you are worth. That others encourage you could be a sign of grace falling upon your pilgrim path. But only you can measure your worth and it is much of how you feel than what others see of you. Often emotional hurts never well up on their own from within us, they are a result of abuses and hurts we get from those we are directly or indirectly related with. But it falls back to us to determine what to do with those hurts.
Do not whine and rote alone in your pain. let others love you. You know what? There are still people out there who do not understand this: they are famous for lavishing others with affection but they do not even recognize their need for affection. Love is healing energy, wherever it comes from. Open to its call and let others pass through your wounds to cleanse the space that hurts within. Letting others inside isn't easy. It could be like revealing your fragility, you hidden wounds, your very "nudity" to others. It is worth the pain and it demands a lot of trust. You might be hurting so much because you do not open up to others. The person offering you affection and attention has a rare gift of his/her uniqueness that you will never find within you. Receiving this gift is empowerment...
Whatever the emotional hurts are, accepting and integrating them is a way of making your humanity open its petals to the beams of human affection. It does cleanse us, thoroughly.
One of the greatest emotional pain spring from our sense of being left out, our abandon, our frustrations of not being able to integrate with others. You feel like you are brushed aside, just like a worth-less, use-less thing. That is what i wanna talk about. The feeling might be so imperceptible... you do not understand how it comes about. That is what I want us to talk about, and I'd not love it to be professional at all, I am no professional myself. I am a beating heart reaching yours.
Do you know what hurts? That is the question I asked you in the opening line of this gist. And do not just take it less seriously... Most of us hardly know what hurts us and that makes the pain so cruel and searing. Knowing what causes your pain is a way of naming it. When you name the source of your pain, you become its master. Pain is a kind of "enemy" and knowing it means you start identifying ways to handle it. The immediate reaction we face when we meet with painful and disheartening circumstances is that of denying facts... we think it couldn't be possible. You may as well stand up, face high and say to yourself, with some gentleness: "never mind, such is life!" And know what, it isn't easy as that. You would need to acknowledge that things aren't always the way we want them to be. That is a thought that makes you expect less yet recognizing surprises. You'll never recognize the miracles that life offers if you can't admit that things could get so bitterly abnormal.
You ever know this feeling of pity, I mean feeling so dejected you say to yourself: "I pity you?" That could be so mean, sometimes, you know. Pity isn't a healing feeling, especially when it turns back to yourself... instead there is compassion that you can express towards yourself. Compassion means, holding your own pain with gentleness and and believing that you can start the journey again. Compassion is the welcome you offer your heart thirsting for recognition and love. You can start loving yourself... the journey begins there always. You best know what your pain feels like, realizing that you are hurting is getting ready to treat yourself with much patience and tenderness. Few people love this and few people actually draw the waters from their hidden wounds to make the seeds of their humanity flourish.
No one, no other human being can make you understand what you are worth. That others encourage you could be a sign of grace falling upon your pilgrim path. But only you can measure your worth and it is much of how you feel than what others see of you. Often emotional hurts never well up on their own from within us, they are a result of abuses and hurts we get from those we are directly or indirectly related with. But it falls back to us to determine what to do with those hurts.
Do not whine and rote alone in your pain. let others love you. You know what? There are still people out there who do not understand this: they are famous for lavishing others with affection but they do not even recognize their need for affection. Love is healing energy, wherever it comes from. Open to its call and let others pass through your wounds to cleanse the space that hurts within. Letting others inside isn't easy. It could be like revealing your fragility, you hidden wounds, your very "nudity" to others. It is worth the pain and it demands a lot of trust. You might be hurting so much because you do not open up to others. The person offering you affection and attention has a rare gift of his/her uniqueness that you will never find within you. Receiving this gift is empowerment...
Whatever the emotional hurts are, accepting and integrating them is a way of making your humanity open its petals to the beams of human affection. It does cleanse us, thoroughly.
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